I love how comfortable you are with your hairiness. I haven't been shirtless in public in years or worn a tank top in 7 years (I'm 23). It's something I envy honestly
At some point, I just hit a point where I stopped giving a shit (or giving far less of one) of what other people thought. Or might have thought. Or could think.
Which I’m not pretending is easy. It was really hard for me to get to that point. 4 years ago I weighed over 270 pounds. ~120+ pounds of burned fat later, I’m feeling much better about myself.
But it also didn’t naturally change my self image. I pretty quickly learned that feeling better, and liking what I saw in the mirror more than before, weren’t actually going to turn into a healthy body image. How much weight I lost wasn’t going to matter, because all I saw were the other flaws I wanted to deal with.
I’m not going to pretend like I don’t still struggle with that quite a bit. But I’ve come really far from where I was.
My advice? Fake it to make it. Even if you HATE the idea of going out in public in a tank top, just force yourself to do it. Maybe at first it’s a quick errand to the convenience store. Then go grocery shopping, or to target. Just try it.
At first, you’re going to be really focused on maintaining your composure, but that will fade. It’ll get easy, second nature to appear more confident than you feel. And here’s the thing, as you have to invest less effort to appear confident, you also invest less thought into what is making you uncomfortable. And that’s eventually going to translate into actual confidence. I promise you.
I know it’s not easy, but you ABSOLUTELY can do it.
And the most important thing is to be kind to yourself.
The. Most. Important. Thing.
When I first met my husband, he had a hard time taking his shirt off too. He was hairy, I mean HAIRY. It looked like he was wearing a sweater when he had his shirt off. And I LOVED it. I always told him I found it sexy, but it was the 90’s and hair wasn’t in. It wasn’t till we went to a bear party at IML that his outlook changed. He saw how much guys with hair were appreciated. He saw that they were just being themselves and that it wasn’t anything to be ashamed of. He embraced his hairiness and had fun with it. When people would make wolf calls to him, he’d wolf right back. If someone told him to put a shirt on, he told ‘em to fuck off.
Don’t let those back-waxers make you feel bad about yourself because you’re blessed with a body full of hair. Hairy bodies are beautiful. Be kind to yourself is right!!
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